And I have even helped many through the more peaceful and amicable process of divorce mediation, which can save everyone a great deal of time, stress and money. You also want to be able to devote your time and attention to your divorce, because the decisions you make during this time will affect you for years to come.

In light of these experiences, here's my compassionate and informed advice if you're thinking about jumping back into the dating scene, and perhaps even if you hear wedding bells ringing in your near future: • If you've started your divorce process, honestly evaluate how your separation or divorce is going. Further, consider how your spouse may react when he or she finds out you're dating.

The spouse who is not dating might suspect cheating, or may be angry that the other spouse is able to move on.

It is also a personal choice as to whether you want to disclose it to your former spouse.

Sometimes it may help your former spouse accept that the relationship is over and in other cases it may add such fuel to the fire that it makes an amicable settlement impossible.

Even in no-fault divorce states, it is still possible for marital misconduct to be factored into decisions depending on the circumstances involved.

It is also possible for the new relationship to be considered in the division of property or spousal support determinations, potentially impacting the amount the dating spouse may receive if he or she is living with a new partner.

If you are entitled to support or alimony, you may date both during the divorce or afterwards.

As long as you do not cohabitate, it will not affect your alimony award.While courts generally do not allow the wishes of children to dictate custody decisions, they might take an older child’s preference into consideration, especially if the parent’s new partner is creating an uncomfortable atmosphere at home.A spouse may also be resistant to sharing custody for fear of being replaced by a new partner or if they don’t think the new partner is a safe or acceptable presence in their children’s lives.In fact, a survey of 2,000 newly divorced people found that nearly 50 percent of divorced men were eager to get remarried, and 20 percent of divorced women were hoping to repeat their trip down the aisle.That's inspiring news for everyone hoping to be hit by Cupid's arrow once again. While it may indeed be true that "all's fair in love," a little common sense doesn't hurt either.Cohabitation can be found even if the other person has their own residence if they spend significant overnights with you.